Find Out Your Couple Type With Prepare-Enrich

Aug 04, 2023

Discover your couple type with prepare-enrich. In this series, we’ve been talking about PREPARE/ENRICH, one of the assessments I use in my Private Couple's Coaching. All of my relationship programs have three components: evaluation, education, and skill development. I use many tools to help you figure out where you are in relation to where you want to be in life and love and career.

Prepare-enrich is one of my favorites.

In fact, I’ve been using PREPARE/ENRICH with couples for more than two decades. That’s a long time! Today I want to introduce you to the five relational patterns (couple types) of identified through research with thousands of married couples. I’ll follow up with examples of married couples who meet criteria for four of the types and describe their dynamics in separate videos. So be sure to stay tuned.

The Marriage Trap

If you're feeling trapped in your marriage, and nothing you've tried has worked, chances are it's not a lack of effort. It’s simply because one essential piece of the puzzle has been missing. 

Most couples have tried everything they can think of to fix their marriage.

They've read books, attended seminars, gone on retreats, and tried counseling.
But nothing has changed. In many ways, it feels like it's only getting worse.

If that describes you and/or your mate, the problem isn’t a lack of effort
— it’s that one essential piece of the puzzle has been missing: The Real You!

You matter! You are the missing piece! 
When things start to go sideways in your marriage, 
you each start changing yourselves in one of two ways.

— You feel frustrated and disappointed. So you keep trying to talk everything through to make it right again. It doesn't work, but you don't give up. You start losing your self-confidence. Everything you think, do, and feel centers around holding your marriage together. And the real you disappears.

— You feel confused and powerless. You're doing the best you can, but your mate isn't satisfied with your efforts. It isn't long before you start backing up. You get smaller and smaller in the relationship. Everything you think, do, and feel is about avoiding conflict. And the real you disappears. 

It happens to everyone at one time or another.
But when it becomes a way of life, you feel trapped in your marriage. 

But you don't have to figure it out alone — you don't have to stay stuck. 

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