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Enjoy these insights on the psychology of men, women, and marriage.

Making Sense of a Husband's Behavior

A woman is often confused by her husband’s behavior.
This is especially true when they’re not getting along.

When she can’t understand why he does what he does instead of what she thinks he should do...

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The Making of a Man: Nature and Nurture

There's real wonder in a man, not because he's flawless, but because he has an amazingly intricate design.

In the first episode in the series "The Wonder of a Man," Dr. Debi explores the biological f...

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The Marriage Trap: Where to Begin When It Seems You Can't Win

If you're feeling trapped in your marriage, and nothing you've tried has worked, chances are it's not due to a lack of effort. It’s simply because one essential piece of the puzzle has been missing.

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The Quiet Drift That Happens Before Couples Realize Something Is Wrong

Most couples don’t realize how disconnection begins. In this episode, Dr. Debi explains how small, overlooked moments create patterns over time — leading to the quiet drift that happens long before co...

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How to Rediscover Hope When Marriage Feels Rocky

Something in your marriage feels off — but you can’t quite explain it.

There’s no major crisis.
Nothing obviously “wrong.”

And yet…

The connection isn’t what it used to be.
Conversations feel harder....

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When Something Feels Off in Your Marriage

There are moments in marriage when something just feels  off.

You may not have words for it yet.
But you feel it.

You’re not where you thought you’d be.
And no matter how much you try to think it t...

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Gender Differences in Communication Styles in Marriage

A husband and wife may technically speak the same language.

But that doesn’t mean they can communicate.

Men and women grow up inside different relational subcultures. From early childhood, they deve...

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Gender Differences in the Meaning of Words

Men and women may speak the same language — but they do not always assign the same meaning to the words they use.

That reality sits at the heart of countless misunderstandings in marriage.

When a ma...

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Gender Differences in the Quantity and Quality of Words

Words Matter

If a man and a woman grow up in the same country, technically they speak the same language.

And yet … they experience conversation very differently.

That’s because men and women are sh...

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Gender Differences in the Purpose of Language

Men and women may speak the same language — but with very different purposes in mind.

In this second installment of the Lost in Translation series, we’re looking at something subtle but powerful: not...

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Gender Differences in Couple Communication

Most couples struggle with miscommunication at some level.

Some keep conversations surface-level.
Some quietly drift apart.
Others feel trapped in ongoing frustration and hurt.

But what if the issue i...

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Why I Walked Away from Couples Counseling

Couples counseling has become the gold standard for struggling marriages.

We’ve been told that if we just communicate better, things will improve. We’ve been told that weekly sessions and emotional p...

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