Making Sense of a Husband's Behavior
May 14, 2026
A woman is often confused by her husband’s behavior.
This is especially true when they’re not getting along.
When she can’t understand why he does what he does instead of what she thinks he should do, she’s overlooking the fact that he is different from her by design. When she interprets his behavior using the correct framework, she can easily identify why he is doing what he is doing. If she understand his motivation to fulfill these four purposes, then what he does actually makes perfect sense.
Through the process of nature and nurture, a man learned how to fulfill four purposes: to protect, to provide, to problem-solve, and to please. He is passionate about each one — first, because he cares — and second, because he feels responsible. A man’s sense of duty is so powerful, in fact, that he will keep working toward these purposes in the absence of any acknowledgement or reward.
Of course, he carries a secret hope that his wife will notice.
00:00 Why a man's behavior feels confusing to his wife
01:48 He Protects
04:10 He Provides
06:10 He Is a Problem-Solver
07:20 He Is a Pleaser
They've read books, attended seminars, gone on retreats, and tried counseling.