If she's like most women, she has a long and ever-growing to-do list that constantly plays in her head like a relentless drill sergeant.

On a typical day, she kicks into high gear the moment she walks in the door after work. Fixing dinner and refereeing everyone take what little focus she has left after a grueling day at work.

• "Put your backpacks away."
• "Stop fighting with your sister."
• "No, you can’t have candy," and
• "How much homework do you have tonight?"

Her husband walks in the door and quickly disappears.

She might not even have heard him come in. She needs his help, but he’s left her to deal with the fray on her own. She's annoyed. Maybe even angry.

When he does show up, she assigns him part of her running to-do-list.

She tries to contain her frustration, so she speaks as calmly as she can. But this is his family, too, and he should be helping … without being told.

However, if she says nothing, then nothing happens. If she does say something … well, now it’s like she has another kid to keep track of.

It seems simpler to just do everything herself.

Her husband has a different perspective on the situation, of course.

I recommend a simple experiment to women in this position. 

It’s so simple she'll wonder why no one ever suggested it. This solution takes only 10 seconds, can change the mood in her home almost instantly, and has the power to create a lasting impact.

The goal of this 3-step experiment is to shift the mood — both his and hers — in 10 seconds or less.

1. Prepare
2. Experiment
3. Observe

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